My Journey to Badass

 

My grown daughter gifted me this bracelet for Christmas. Because of the pandemic, we weren't together while opening presents. I was sitting in my lazy boy chair as I opened the package that came in the mail from Nordstrom's.  "My how fancy," I thought. I love jewelry and she knows that is always a safe bet to give me a gift of earrings or bracelets.  Badass?  Never, ever in my life have I ever been referred to as a badass before. I've been called other uncomplimentary names, but nothing close to this one. 

It didn't take long for a smile to creep across my face.  I kind of liked the idea that my offspring thinks of me in this manner.  When my children were growing up, I would try to give them a dirty look that would shock them into behaving -- it never worked. In fact, they would laugh at my attempts at ruling them with fear.

Still trying to decide if this description fit, and cautiously enjoying my new moniker, I asked for a definition. She wanted me to describe it for myself.  I pressed her.

Boldness.  Caring for your family fearlessly, she offered. Oh yes, I thought, I would like that to be me.

My son chimed in at my pushing for more.  "Boldness in creativity -- for yourself and others."  Oh yes, I like this too.  

I checked out the dictionary. Merriam Webster has two definitions. The first description is someone who is tough, gets into trouble and can be offensive.  Yikes, maybe not. But in the second definition, more accommodated by another generation said that it describes one who is formidable or skilled in some area, impressive. I like the word formidable. The women I look up to with great respect, are formidable. My heroes are formidable.  So the definition has transformed in the vernacular over the years. I like it.

Continuing my research, I found a wonderful article, 8 Signs You're A Benevolent Badass, on "Thought Catalogue's" website, written by Depti Singh.  She tells her readers that this kind of badass isn't like its "savage counterparts."  Here's the list:

                        1. You know your own self worth and don't settle for anything less

                        2.  You are a rebellious dreamer

                        3.  You lead with love

                        4.  You have boundaries and respect other people's boundaries

                        5.  You are a hard worker

                        6.   Trash opinions don't matter to you

                        7.   You are a visionary and want to give back to society

                        8.   You know how to have fun!

Now I am beyond delighted!  Not only am I a badass, I, when I am at my best, am a benevolent badass. And I shall now continue embracing this powerful, creative, loving, formidable woman that I am.  And I am further delighted that my children can see this in me.